- the weirdness of having people look up to you now that you’ve published something — or won something
- nobody showing up at signings or whatever
- a ton of people showing up at signings or whatever
- being an introvert and having to behave like an extrovert (without having a nervous breakdown)
- having fans (They all aren’t stalkers, you know.)
- talking about ourselves with confidence and without holding back (Here’s a link about humility and self-confidence: http://www.chabad.org/parshah/article_cdo/aid/475512/jewish/Humility-vs-Low-Self-Confidence.htm )
- spending more and more time in the public eye
We can publish and have perhaps ten copies printed and leave them at home under the bed and never tell anyone about them. That would solve all of the above issues neatly.
Deep down, I think we want everybody in the world to read our book(s). If this happens, we will become “famous” so will be forced to face our fears.
Each of us is an individual so there are no hard and fast rules explaining how to deal with these “problems” that we writers — shy folks for the most part — will eventually face once we publish.
The only way to deal with all of this is to deal with it internally, on our own individual terms, and one step at a time even though it’s terrifying. In my post on “De-Stressing” I wrote about Breaking Our Programming. A writing colleague and I have been challenging each other to do just that, lately. It’s exhilarating! Actually fun!
“Guess what I did this week that I never did before! Giggle.”
“I sent a story to a publisher. Giggle.”
“Aaah! You didn’t!”
“Yes. I did. I really did. And I didn’t have a heart attack or anything! And they even rejected it and it didn’t make me want to commit suicide or anything.”
“No kidding. You’re an inspiration. I guess rejection isn’t as bad as we imagine it to be, is it?”
“We’re writers. Our imaginations work overtime constantly.”
“So did they say anything about it?”
“Yes. They said I might consider changing the ending and then re-submit.”
“What? That wasn’t a rejection then.”
“Oh. No. I suppose it wasn’t. Imagine that …”
“How does it feel?”
“Uh. Weird. It makes me want to … to giggle.”
“I think that’s what happy feels like. Ya think?”
“I’m gonna give it a try but I’m scared out of my mind.”
“Of what? What are you scared of?”
“Um. Huh. To tell you the truth, I don’t really know.”
Next Post — Genre = Species
Sherrill Wark is the author of Really Stupid Writing Mistakes: How to Avoid Them: http://www.amazon.com/Really-Stupid-Writing-Mistakes-Avoid/dp/1479308226
… and Death in l’Acadie: a Kesk8a story (fiction): http://www.amazon.com/Death-lAcadie-Kesk8a-Sherrill-Wark/dp/1511501154/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8